Pilgrims vs Native Americans...a Letter to My Boyfriend

Think of our relationship like the pilgrims and the Native Americans. We come from different worlds, but we can come together on common ground. With some work we have the ability to complement one another with our vast differences. If we can learn how to make the exchange early, our relationship has a better chance of being productive. 

When the pilgrims first took over the land, they had no idea how to forage for food nor the basic ways to survive. Many of the men fell victim to various diseases, and starvation was very prevalent. The men were accustomed to living life in a bubble, with their fancy knives and forks, clean clothes, and guns. Never did they imagine living in a world where they would have to be selfless and resourceful. 

However, the Native Americans were not only native to the land, but they were also very familiar with how to survive. Their survival tactics included foraging for food, shelter, and water. They also had a keen eye for protecting their tribes at all cost. Over time they found ways to use nature to create spears for protection. 

All in all, both groups have done well on their own, however they are very limited in the vast possibilities that life has to offer. Alone they can only do so much, but when they unite the possibilities are endless. Initially, things are a bit rocky because as you can see they were both trying to force their way of living on the other. No one was willing to bend or compromise, yet the world that they once knew was beginning to both unravel and collide. The more stubborn they were, the more challenging life became. 

In relationships, you deal with very similiar issues. The question is are you willing to bend, are you willing to shift, are you willing to do things that you don't want to do in the name of harmony? Most single minded individuals would say no..."stay true to yourself!," they would holler with pride. But again, just like the pilgrims and Native Americans they are limiting the possibilities that life has to offer. 

Both the pilgrims and the Native Americans initially would agree that there was no point in coming together. They couldn't see the benefit in the beginning. However, as they both lived their lives separate but equally, they began to see what each other had to offer. Pride was the main culprit. Pride would not allow them to humble themselves to see how the two world's could join forces. 

History proves that this alliance only benefited the pilgrims, due to the many deaths from European influences, the fact that the land was compromised by opportunistic people, and the fact that the Native Americans taught them how to fish, hunt, and survive in the new land. But all in all, looking at a different perspective, they both learned a lot from one another. They bonded on a level that was once impossible. Communication was a huge barrier, they still found ways to connect with one another. 

So the point that I am making is, first find all of the ways that drive us apart, and then learn to compromise with one another in order to produce something of greater quality. Instead of spinning our wheels and holding on to our singleness for dear life let's allow our differences to fuel a partnership so strong that turns impossibilities into possibilities.